One
bad I habit I have is looking at people my own age and saying "I'm so far
behind!" or "....If I wasn't such an idiot back then I probably could
of had better things (better: life, boyfriend/husband, career, etc.) and I feel
toward them on hand admiration and on the hand "Why couldn't that be me as
well?". But what I'm learning and what a lot of people are telling me is
that "You are where you are in life..." or "There's no
rush..." and they're right though I have to keep reminding myself from time
to time. Here's a few things I remember when I feel the need to compare myself
with the rest of the world. Truth is I don't know what the other person had to
go through to get what they got or where they got today. Also, everybody takes
their own paths in life, and I can't do everything the same way everyone else
does and vice-versa and because everyone on this earth follows a different path
which my makes us all unique. People sometimes will comment on my life and say
things like "You're too far behind people your own age!" or "You
never have fun like other people our age." and I reply to them with things
like "When the time is right, I'll get to that point in my life..."
or "No I don't have fun like people my own on age, I have MY type of
fun.". When people say things like that to other people, it sometimes
cause self-doubt and cause people to question themselves or feel insecure, It's
happened to me plenty of time. That's when I tell myself things like, "I
am who I am..." or "If they don't like you, then they don't have to
be around you..." when I tell myself things like that, it reminds me that
other people don't know your struggle or why your life is the way it is and
where you came from to get to this point. Nobody knows these things better than
you yourself. My grandfather always told my "Everybody has a
season...everybody has a season to bloom and when it's your time you will
bloom" and I found through the year he is so right! Sometimes I've gotten
impatient or wanted to do what my friends were doing when it really wasn't my
time. Though remembering his words in my head, I've learned to become patient.
From that I've learn to be happy for other people when it's their time and be
secure with myself.
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