First Apartment: Whu you Should or Shouldn't Move Out

Ok recently I've been in the process of getting my first apartment. So, I thought it would be a good idea to share some of the reasons I'm moving and what I feel are good and not so good reasons to move out (at this present time). NOTE: These are not rules just my personal experiences and logics.

Reasons to move out:

-Space:
As we get older we need our privacy and space. Sharing a room with your sibling just doesn't work anymore. Maybe one feels cramp and the room isn't barely big enough to move around or if your parents or mom is like mine, they use your room as secondary storage space. Also, inviting friends over maybe hard, because there isn't enough room to sit. All signs it maybe to time for a place of your own.

-School or Work Commute:
Though one might like living at home, the commute from home to work everyday may be too long or a hassle and costing money for more gas. Therefore considering moving closer (even if only 10 minutes) can help with this situation.

-Living As You Please:
Every heard the phrase from your parents"Since you live under my roof you, will live by my rules!" ? Which even though as their kids we don't like to hear it, it's totally true! People work hard to pay for and keep a place of their own (including your parents) the home a is a castle, a sanctuary away from the world. Therefore, people don't want everyone coming in to their home and doing whatever they want. Whoever gets their own place will probably feel same way too, whether they're talking to their own children or someone else they let stay with them. I know I will!

Reasons not to move out (Yet):

-Not Enough Money:
It's a good goal to have and work toward, but jumping out without a way to stand on your own 2 feet and keep a roof over your head, isn't smart. It leaves you struggling, living from paycheck to paycheck and if evicted stays on your rental history. As well as it could have you moving back in with your parents really soon. So to work toward that goal start saving so when you do move out you'll be able to be financially stable.

-Your Friends Said You Should:
Ah, yes our friends.......For SOME people their friends tend to play a huge role in the decision making process for many things. This isn't always a good thing, especially in this case. Friends don't know your income, home life circumstances and so on. Even if they plan on being your roommate they're not going to and probably can't afford to pay your share of the bills. So it's up to you to know when your ready not your friends.

- To Feel like an adult:
Many adults live at home and still live decently lives, whether they moved back in or never moved out in the first place. Living on your own doesn't validate one as an adult, your maturity level and how well you use the knowledge wisdom you gained over the years is what make you an adult.

Reasons why I want to move out

-Space:
I haven't had my own room in years, I slept on in the living room for a year and now I share a room in my parent home again with my sister who is expecting. Plus I don't even have a place to store most of my belonging any more.

-Living to way I want to:
I don't have much say because after it is my parents house, I really want to eventually get married and start my own family and I don't want to be cramming my kids and husband into my parents house.

-To Escape My Family:
I love my family, but sometimes I need a break from them and the chaos that follows.

-Peace and Quiet:
Because our home is a little small for us and the walls are paper thin, you can hear everything that goes one through the house even, with the neighbors and their noise upstairs.

With all this said moving out first time can be a fun and exciting experience if done right. And I hope that I can look back one day and reminisce about this experience.

Peace.

Some Like it Hot, Some Like it Cold.....

One of the many favorite things for people to discuss or complain about is: The weather. Some say it's too hot, others say it too cold. Some people hate snow while other people hate heat or rain. Though I too have a favorite weather or season, which is winter; Though I tend to be content whatever the weather;In fact I enjoy the change of season and I look forward to it. Since right I now it's Autumn, I'm enjoying cooler temperatures, beautiful leaves and Autumn scenery and wide variety of pumpkin and spice flavored foods example: pumpkin coffee. Where I live summer went by so fast for me,  it feels like summer never came! Though I can't complain because I enjoy this time of year. If I were to be a complainer about the weather/season, I would probably complain about summer or heat because I get too hot, too fast and when I get overheated, I get irritable as well. But again, I don't normally complain much about the weather too many more important things to worry about, so I just take it as it comes...

Happy Fall

My Fav Product of the Month: iFrog Go Lite Portable Charger

When I was shopping for school supplies, I bought this portable electronic charger mainly for my phone because I my phone's battery life runs out fast but I wasn't always able to get to a wall outlet or plug it into the car. So I bought this charge called the "Go Lite" by iFrog and it has a flashlight built into one end of it and it come in a variety of colors (such as red, blue, black, white, purple, etc.) depending upon the location that they're sold, mine is purple.

It also come with a UBS adapter (though you can use detach the UBS cord from your phone charger and use it as well). The way it works is: You charger the "Go Lite" with your phone charger and it stores that energy and when you're ready to use it you just plug in you're phone and charge it like
normal. What I like to do is charge mine the night before and then in the morning just throw it in my purse and go.

I don't know about anyone else's "Go Lite" but mine didn't lose the energy it store even when I didn't use it for a whole week, so in my opinion it stores charged energy well. The only con I see with this and I don't know if' it's happened to anyone else, but when I DO charge mine phone sometimes I find that there's no juice left for a few more or even one other charge. Other than that, I really like it and I would rate it 4 stars. I say check it out and see what you think.

 

Happy Labor Day

Happy

Labor

Day!

Making Time for Yourself

"Make Time for Yourself..." I hear this all the time for my therapist, aunt, friends, T.V. and advertisements, and now that I have some experience under my belt I understand it better and why it's important. What I've learned is that people and life will always have demands and always expected them to be fulfilled like "NOW!” The number of demands are endless and sometimes pointless and insignificant and people don't care as long you're doing what they want you to do, when they want you to do it. And obviously they don't care how it affects you in the long run. With all that being said, sometimes I've had to turn off my phone, leave the e-mails unchecked for a day or two, stay off Facebook, Instagram, MySpace and any other form of social media and get away from my job, family and friends for a while. When I did I came back better than I was before refreshed, balanced, clear-headed and relaxed. When I didn't do this...well just the opposite would happen, and it was like my whole life would crash and/or go off course. Now, I've always had a bad case of the 'Disease to Please', I wanted everybody to be happy and satisfied especially the people that were close to me. Because of that, I would put off things that I had intended to do or need to do for myself in order to fulfill that desire to make everyone else happy. I do things like for example: go to the grocery store and when I originally went there for myself, I would have like three other people's shopping lists in my hand as well as my own (my mom, grandfather, friends etc.) and I would be so worried about getting everything on their lists, I'd forget to look at my own list and get the things I needed. To make matters worse, nobody would give me money for their stuff majority of the time. Smh. Another example would be, helping everyone else with their homework and not finishing or even starting on my own. And when I did, it was too late to start or finish it, everyone got a good grade except me. Therefore, I'm learning fast to "Make Time for Myself" even if it's just for making sure I have time to get dress, prepare for work the next day or just time to relax and clear my head. I learned that by making time for myself, it didn’t mean that I was selfish or that I didn’t care about anyone else (regardless that guilt trips may suggest otherwise) it's about taking care of myself before I do anyone else. I know this phrase could sound poster-board cheesy but I regardless of how it’s worded, I find it to be a well needed reminder.

Relax and Unwind

For me, yoga is a way to relax, get exercise, quiet my mind and so much more. I like doing yoga in the evening (just a preference) because I feel like it's a nice way to unwind and let the hustle and bustle of the day fall away. It brings my mind back to a calm state and help me have a clear head before I go to bed and when I start out the morning. I think should everyone have some time to themselves during the day even if it ain't nothing but 5 minutes. I feel that just like anything in life, too little or too much of something may not be so good, and not enough time for yourself can just as bad as too much time alone. I feel that every once in a while I need time to think, clear my head and rest my mind and body. People do so much in life (like, work, take care of home, family obligations, relationships, social activities and so on) that isn't enough time for themselves as an individual to refresh or relax, it just 'GO, GO, GO!' I've learned that's an easy way to get burn out, as well not be of any use to anyone including yourself. So I've been teaching myself to fit time in my schedule for me to slow down and rest a little and to settle my mind and I have to admit I needed in it's been working. So far, so good... :)

Compare Yourself to others

One bad I habit I have is looking at people my own age and saying "I'm so far behind!" or "....If I wasn't such an idiot back then I probably could of had better things (better: life, boyfriend/husband, career, etc.) and I feel toward them on hand admiration and on the hand "Why couldn't that be me as well?". But what I'm learning and what a lot of people are telling me is that "You are where you are in life..." or "There's no rush..." and they're right though I have to keep reminding myself from time to time. Here's a few things I remember when I feel the need to compare myself with the rest of the world. Truth is I don't know what the other person had to go through to get what they got or where they got today. Also, everybody takes their own paths in life, and I can't do everything the same way everyone else does and vice-versa and because everyone on this earth follows a different path which my makes us all unique. People sometimes will comment on my life and say things like "You're too far behind people your own age!" or "You never have fun like other people our age." and I reply to them with things like "When the time is right, I'll get to that point in my life..." or "No I don't have fun like people my own on age, I have MY type of fun.". When people say things like that to other people, it sometimes cause self-doubt and cause people to question themselves or feel insecure, It's happened to me plenty of time. That's when I tell myself things like, "I am who I am..." or "If they don't like you, then they don't have to be around you..." when I tell myself things like that, it reminds me that other people don't know your struggle or why your life is the way it is and where you came from to get to this point. Nobody knows these things better than you yourself. My grandfather always told my "Everybody has a season...everybody has a season to bloom and when it's your time you will bloom" and I found through the year he is so right! Sometimes I've gotten impatient or wanted to do what my friends were doing when it really wasn't my time. Though remembering his words in my head, I've learned to become patient. From that I've learn to be happy for other people when it's their time and be secure with myself.

Rainy Days

It's been raining a lot here lately between Delaware and Maryland, but I don't mind I love the rain. I rarely hear anyone say that but me, most people think I'm odd when I say that. I don't know, for some reason rain makes me relaxed and it brings out my creative side and a good storm put me to sleep in no time! I also feel like I have clear head later in the day and or the day after. I think the only thing I probably dislike about the rain is driving in a heavy down pour or in a flooded area. Other than that if I'm inside watching the rain fall out the window or listening to the sound of it hitting the glass I'm good. For myself I feel like the water from the rain just kinda of does some type of mental and emotional cleanse or detox and feels like the rain washes all my worries and troubles and gives me a clean slate. Just what I need sometimes to feel refreshed, therefore I enjoy the rain.

#Rainydays #creativity #cleaning #relaxation

Happy Father's Day

Happy Father's Day to all the wonderful dad's around the world.

#fathersday #holiday #june